Presenter
May Allāh be benevolent to you. This is a questioner saying: How can the wife be righteous?
Shaykh ʿUbayd bn ʿAbdillāh Al-Jābirī
He [i.e., the Prophet] ﷺ said, in description of the righteous woman: “She is the one whom when you look at her, she delights you. And when you command her, she obeys you. And when you’re away from her, she safeguards you[r possessions].”
And in the other ḥadīth, “If the woman observes her five obligatory prayers, fasts her month [i.e., Ramaḍān], obeys her husband, and guards her chastity, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Jannah from any of its eight doors you wish.’”
And more profound than this [ḥadith] and that, is what is contained in the Noble Revelation [which means]:
“Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.).” [An-Nisāʾ: 34]
And he ﷺ said: “The woman is married for her wealth, beauty, lineage, and religion. Hold on to the religious one, may your hand be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you be successful].”
In summary, the righteous woman is the one who is steadfast upon the commandments of Allāh by performing what she is not incapable of doing from them. That is, by performing what she is capable of.
Due to His statement, the Most High [which means]:
“Allāh does not burden a soul beyond its scope.” [Al-Baqarah: 286]
And His statement [which means]:
“So keep your duty to Allah and fear Him as much as you can.” [At-Taghābun: 16]
And he [i.e., the Prophet] ﷺ said: “When I command you with something, do as much of it as you can.”
And she is steadfast regarding the prohibitions of Allāh by abandoning and staying away from them.
And in this and that [i.e., the prohibitions and commandments], she must be hoping to be rewarded, sincere to Allāh, the Exalted and Most High, and following Muḥammad ﷺ.
And we shall not forget to draw the attention of the men and women to [the fact] that each one of the couple is a trust around the neck of his/her companion. S/he will be asked about him/her on the Day of Resurrection.
So, each one of them should fear Allāh regarding his/her companion.
And we advise both of them with pardoning one another and minimizing blame and finding fault.
Because this—meaning pardoning one another, by one of them pardoning his/her companion in his/her shortcoming, provided that he/she did not oppress him/her—is from what strengthens the love and mercy between them.
Likewise, it is from what obstructs the [entrance of the] whispering of Shayṭān between them.
And the woman, with respect to the man, is [in a position of being] commanded and prohibited. He is her leader. So, she should obey him in what is in obedience to Allāh, the Mighty and Majestic.
As Allāh, the Most High, said [what means]:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.” [An-Nisāʾ: 34]
